Here's a start at a nice embedding for the valence=5, diameter=3 case. The largest known graph has 72 vertices.
edgy53={{1,4},{1,8},{1,22},{1,55},{1,70},{2,3},{2,5},{2,24},{2,54},{2,72},{3,6},{3,23},{3,53},{3,71},{4,7},{4,21},{4,56},{4,69},{5,9},{5,10},{5,27},{5,69},{6,11},{6,12},{6,26},{6,70},{7,9},{7,11},{7,25},{7,71},{8,10},{8,12},{8,28},{8,72},{9,13},{9,37},{9,65},{10,15},{10,39},{10,68},{11,16},{11,40},{11,66},{12,14},{12,38},{12,67},{13,14},{13,18},{13,44},{13,57},{14,20},{14,42},{14,60},{15,16},{15,17},{15,43},{15,58},{16,19},{16,41},{16,59},{17,22},{17,24},{17,33},{17,64},{18,21},{18,24},{18,35},{18,62},{19,21},{19,23},{19,36},{19,63},{20,22},{20,23},{20,34},{20,61},{21,28},{21,29},{22,25},{22,30},{23,27},{23,31},{24,26},{24,32},{25,28},{25,32},{25,46},{26,27},{26,29},{26,48},{27,30},{27,47},{28,31},{28,45},{29,33},{29,34},{29,51},{30,35},{30,36},{30,50},{31,33},{31,35},{31,49},{32,34},{32,36},{32,52},{33,37},{33,61},{34,39},{34,63},{35,40},{35,64},{36,38},{36,62},{37,38},{37,42},{37,68},{38,44},{38,66},{39,40},{39,41},{39,67},{40,43},{40,65},{41,46},{41,48},{41,57},{42,45},{42,48},{42,59},{43,45},{43,47},{43,60},{44,46},{44,47},{44,58},{45,52},{45,53},{46,49},{46,54},{47,51},{47,55},{48,50},{48,56},{49,52},{49,56},{49,70},{50,51},{50,53},{50,72},{51,54},{51,71},{52,55},{52,69},{53,57},{53,58},{54,59},{54,60},{55,57},{55,59},{56,58},{56,60},{57,61},{58,63},{59,64},{60,62},{61,62},{61,66},{62,68},{63,64},{63,65},{64,67},{65,70},{65,72},{66,69},{66,72},{67,69},{67,71},{68,70},{68,71}};
We can check the diameter easily with the code below.
GraphDiameter[Graph[#[[1]] \[UndirectedEdge] #[[2]] & /@ edgy53]]
Graphing this in various ways shows a messy graph. This particular embedding has a lot of structure to it, though. Take a look at grouping the 72 vertices into 18 blocks of 4 vertices.
sub18=RotateLeft[SortBy[Union[Ceiling[edgy53/4]], #[[2]]-#[[1]]&],6];
GraphPlot[Rule@@@sub18, VertexLabeling->True, Method-> "CircularEmbedding"]

A highly symmetric graph is the result. The next stage would be to shuffle each set of 4 vertices in some nice way so that the full 72 vertex graph has lots of symmetry. Maybe someone else can do that.
Graph[#[[1]] \[UndirectedEdge] #[[2]] & /@ edgy53, VertexCoordinates -> Thread[Range[72] -> CirclePoints[72]]]