Okay to begin with, I've learned that the second and third rules for OpX are malformed. Replacing OpX with OpIt, only two rules are required:
OpIt /: OpIt[Ae_ + Bee__] := OpIt[Ae] + OpIt[Bee]
OpIt /: OpIt[Ae_] := {D[Ae, Rr], D[Ae, Teta]}
So together with
FrstRay[Rr, Teta] := {Cos[Teta], -Sin[Teta]/Rr}
ScndRay[Rr, Teta] := {Sin[Teta], +Cos[Teta]/Rr}
gets us Del Sqrd in cylindrical coordinates using the code
FrstOpXx = FrstRay[Rr, Teta].OpIt[You[Rr, Teta]]
ScndOpXx = Expand[FrstRay[Rr, Teta].OpIt[FrstOpXx]]
FrstOpYy = ScndRay[Rr, Teta].OpIt[You[Rr, Teta]]
ScndOpYy = Expand[ScndRay[Rr, Teta].OpIt[FrstOpYy]]
DelSqrd = Simplify[ScndOpYy + ScndOpXx]